Have you built a life that outwardly looks successful – but it doesn't always feel like the one you want? Perhaps you're performing, but disconnected? Maybe you're productive, reliable and on paper doing fine – but inside, something doesn't feel right. You catch yourself wondering: Is this really it?
You don't need to be in crisis to benefit from working with me. I specialise in supporting men who are quietly questioning who they've become, their relationships, or where their life is heading – often after years spent chasing success. I help them move from holding everything together on the surface to feeling more connected, grounded and genuinely themselves. Sometimes the most important work begins when things are "fine" – but not fulfilling.
Sessions explore the bigger questions that sit under everyday struggles – about identity, freedom, meaning, success and connection. We'll look at how your choices, relationships and values have evolved, and where they might now feel at odds with who you want to be. This work is especially useful for men navigating life and career change, emotional disconnection, or the quiet expectation to "keep it together." Over time, my clients tend to feel clearer, steadier and have the self-respect needed to act in line with who they truly are.
I'm a UKCP and UPCA-registered existential psychotherapist with a PhD in neuroscience and a background in corporate leadership. Therapy with me isn't about fixing you – it's about understanding yourself more deeply, making sense of what's happening and exploring why it matters. My research focuses on how men carry anxiety and shame – particularly around identity, intimacy and sexuality. I understand the emotional cost of success and how to work with it in a way that restores connection, not pressure.
My clients come from all backgrounds and professions: sales, tech, finance, actors, comedians, bricklayers, new fathers, and soon-to-be divorced. They say they value the combination of depth and practicality I bring – exploring what's real and meaningful, with both compassion and challenge. The work is collaborative and conversational, and my clients often say it feels emotionally safe as well as intellectually credible.
You don't need all the words for what's wrong – part of the work is learning to understand what you feel, not just what you think. Whether you're dealing with burnout, relationship struggles, compulsive behaviours or a quiet sense of disconnection, you don't have to work it out alone. I offer online and in-person sessions in Clapham and Central London. There's no minimum commitment, and I use recurring calendar invites, MS Teams video calls, and a one-click payment link to make the process as smooth and low-effort for you as possible.
Send me a message or book a free 20-minute introductory consultation via my website without any obligation to continue: www.rethink-your-self.com
I'm a UKCP and UPCA registered existential psychotherapist. My career has focused on understanding how people think, change and find meaning – and what gets in the way.
- PhD in neuroscience, grounding me in how we think, feel and behave
- MSc and PGDip in Existential Psychotherapy, which informs how I work with men who feel stuck, are looking for meaning, or are ready to change
- Postgraduate research into compulsive pornography use, and how this can relate to issues like shame, masculinity, emotional disconnection and self-worth
- A background in high-pressure creative and professional environments, giving me insight into the emotional cost of performance and ambition – and what it takes to re-orient them toward a more authentic life
- Research supervision for postgraduate psychotherapy students, which keeps me close to current thinking
- An ongoing commitment to my own development, not just my clients'
While this experience informs my work, I welcome men of all backgrounds who are seeking meaning, clarity and a more authentic way of living.
I work with men who are:
- navigating the quiet, often hidden struggles that come with modern life
- feeling emotionally numb, disconnected and stuck in patterns they don't fully understand
- anxious and questioning their identity, sexuality, relationships or direction in life
- dealing with shame from the past, pressure to perform in the present, or the emotional cost of success
- feeling dependent on things like alcohol or pornography to get relief
My approach is suitable for most problems encountered in life, including the bigger questions – things like freedom, responsibility, identity, meaning, spirituality, mortality and death – and how they show up in your relationships, work and inner world.
If you feel I might be the right person to help you, even if your particular problem isn't listed here, feel free to get in touch and we can talk about it together.